There is finally a new website for Rubenfeld Synergy Method! Emblazoned with the new slogan, “Befriend Your Body, Transform Your Life,” it is an easier to navigate, more informative and more beautiful site than the old one, and it more readily invites people in to understand what Rubenfeld Synergy is, how it can help, and how you can take steps to improve your relationship with yourself.
Probably my favorite thing, though, is this great video, where a number of people who have experienced RSM talk about their relationships with their own bodies, and what RSM has done for them.
One of my brilliant teachers and the current president of the International Association of Rubenfeld Synergists (INARS), Theresa Pettersen-Chu, posted this blessing yesterday on the Rubenfeld Synergy Method Facebook page. I was pleased enough with it to want to share it here. I hope you enjoy, and take it to heart – and to all of your parts. 🙂
Amanda Palmer, late of the Dresden Dolls and ever-itinerant, fascinating, fearless musician and artist, did a TED talk in which she shows how she got people to pay for music in the digital age – by asking them.
This talk reminds me how difficult it is for people to connect with each other, social media explosion notwithstanding. How hard it is to hold eye contact for more than a moment; how hard to hold out your hand to someone, to speak to a stranger, to allow contact.
[E]motion isn’t a simple reflex or a bodily state that’s hard-wired into our DNA, and it’s certainly not universally expressed. It’s a contingent act of perception that makes sense of the information coming in from the world around you, how your body is feeling in the moment, and everything you’ve ever been taught to understand as emotion. Culture to culture, person to person even, it’s never quite the same. What’s felt as sadness in one person might as easily be felt as weariness in another, or frustration in someone else.
The comments on the article are especially good (something that doesn’t happen all that often!), and delve more into the difference between affect – emotional reflexes that occur even in infants – and emotion – our reaction sets that are built from our culture, life experiences, and other contextual clues. As one commenter succinctly puts it: affect is biology, emotion is biography.
I’m encouraged to see a nuancing of emotional reading in the field of psychology; those of us who do somatic work know that interpreting emotion is not as simple as a smile meaning happiness, or a scowl meaning anger. As a person’s body contains the life story of that person, so a person’s emotional expression manifests itself differently depending on a multitude of factors.
It will be interesting to see how this research progresses; in the meantime, I keep reminding myself that every individual is unique.