Just what does a Rubenfeld Synergy session look like, anyway? – Part 2

In part one of this description of a typical Rubenfeld Synergy session, I covered the welcome at the start of the session, the talking in chairs, and moving the client to the table.  In this second half, I will discuss the portion of the session that takes place on the table.

Again, we are talking about a first session, and while every session and every client will differ, we are focusing on the physical moves and verbal interventions a Synergist will use most often, especially in a first session where not much is known about the style and needs of a particular client.

For this portion, I will progress through the Classic Sequence, which is a series of moves designed to make contact with the whole person over the course of the session.

Working on the table: The Classic Sequence

1. First contact at the head.  In a typical first session, the first place the Synergist will make contact is at the client’s head.  Using “butterfly touch,” the Synergist places the tips of her fingers at the base of the client’s skull, called the occipital ridge.  This is a place on the body where many nerve endings come together; it is also where the top of the spine makes contact with the brainstem.  For this reason, it is a sensitive place, and contact here tends to “wake up” the nervous system.  This contact is intended as a “saying hello,” and the Synergist may or may not ask questions or make statements here, depending on the response of the client to the touch.  A typical first question is something like, “As I’m making contact with you here at your head, what are you aware of?”  The client’s answer to this will begin to give the Synergist an idea of how this client relates to his body: is she aware of how something physically feels?  Or of a movement of energy?  Does she notice an emotion rising?  Or is she confused or disoriented by the question itself?  All of these responses (and more) are information the Synergist can use to move forward with this client.

The Synergist may also attempt a head roll here before moving on; this gives her an idea of how much movement, flexibility, tightness, etc. there is in the client’s neck to start with.  All of these things may also have other layers of meaning: tension may indicate apprehension, fear, anger, reluctance; softness may indicate relaxation or a feeling of safety, or any number of other things.  But this first contact is really intended just as a hello, and moving on from here, once an initial impression has been made, is important.

2. First touch at the feet.  The next place we make contact in the classic sequence is the feet.  Again using that gentle, light touch, we place our hands on the tops of the client’s feet, in essence completing the circuit we began at the head and helping the client to make the connection between the two ends of his body.  Here, again, the Synergist may ask what the client notices or is aware of, or may check in with something the client has already brought up – “tension in my throat,” “tightness in my chest,” “ache in the lower back,” “sadness in my belly,” or whatever may have already arisen.  The idea is to follow a thread, but always with an eye to what the client is experiencing now, in this moment.  This allows both for the client to observe how subtle, incremental changes happen in his own system, and for a theme to begin to develop for the session.

This is also a time for the Synergist to do the “windshield wiper” move, encouraging rotation of the legs at the hip using gentle pressure on the outsides of the client’s heels.  How much movement there is, or is not, is a signal to the Synergist for which side to work on first.

3. The metatarsal move.  Whichever side of the client’s body seemed more available to movement is the side where the Synergist begins the deeper moves.  The first of these is at the metatarsal, the toe bones of the foot.  The Synergist lightly presses near the ball of the client’s foot, spreading the toes and inviting movement in the ankle.  This helps the Synergist get more information about the client’s available movement, the quality and character of her feet, and potentially begins to open metaphors for how the client makes contact with the ground and with safety: is this someone who stands firm in her truth?  Someone who is always running away, racing ahead, or lagging behind?  Can the client feel her feet at all, or is she always in her head?  All of these ideas and more can be explored with this move, depending on how the client experiences it and what she is ready to reveal.

4. The hip sandwich.  From time to time the Synergist may do a move between the foot and the hip at the knee, if it seems to be needed.  In the classic sequence, though, the next move is at the hip.  The Synergist slides her hand under one of the client’s hips, cradling that side of the pelvis, with her fingertips at the edge of the sacrum.  (This is an intimate move, and one I always ask permission before doing.  In fact, with some clients, I obtain fresh consent before every instance of contact; I plan to address the issue of touch and consent in a different post.)  The other hand is placed on top of the hip, both hands facing the same direction toward the client’s opposite shoulder.

Often, the hips have a lot of information to convey.  Their positioning is related to the position of the pelvis and lower back, so any physical tensions there can be highlighted or relieved.  Sexual trauma often locates here as well, so memories may be triggered.  Sometimes the hips have information about where the client feels stuck, or which way he wants to go: the hips are where we find our turning radius, telling us when we want to turn toward or away from something.  To extend the linguistic metaphor, our hips can also help us turn up, turn someone down, get turned on or turned off.  Some people become turned inward, and then they don’t know where to turn.  The point is, there can be a lot going on in the hips.  Whatever it is that comes up here, the Synergist hopes to effect a release and free up movement in the hip joint.  This doesn’t always happen, but can be profound when it does: the Synergist places his top hand under the knee, then sweeps down the leg all the way through the foot, listening all the way down.  Afterward, he’ll do the windshield wiper move again, and most of the time the client will experience a difference in the way the worked-on leg is now moving in contrast to the leg the Synergist has not yet addressed.

After this, the Synergist will move to the other foot and hip.  Very different experiences may occur on each side, but the goal is for both legs to feel looser, longer, and more free to move.

5. The shoulder cradle.  Once both hips have been released, the Synergist moves to the shoulder on the same side as the first leg.  Moving the client’s hand to a convenient position, the Synergist puts his hands beneath the client’s back and supports his shoulder blade.

The shoulders are a place where many people hold tension, and the shoulders and rib cage also serve as protection for the heart.  For this reason, emotional material often arises during shoulder work.  In a first session, a Synergist will often welcome emotional release, but will probably not go too deeply into it with the client, as a relationship of trust is still being established.  Going too deep too soon can cause embarrassment or even shame, and the client’s sense of safety is paramount.  However, sometimes there may be tears or anger or any number of emotions moving through a client, and it is the Synergist’s job to welcome, allow, facilitate and contain the client’s emotional experience.

Even if there is not emotion here, the shoulders can be a complex and delicate place, and most people will at least feel some letting go and relief of tension from the contact.  At the close of this move, the Synergist moves down the client’s arm with the intention of widening, then, taking the client’s hand and bending the arm, gently dangles and waves the arm to the extent the client’s body allows.  This clues the client in to how loose or tight his shoulder still is, how much weight he is allowing the Synergist to take, and what the quality is of the tension remaining.

The Synergist will often ask here about the difference between the two shoulders/arms before moving over and doing the move on the other side.

6. The head, revisited.  To close the classic sequence, the Synergist returns to the head.  She may attempt a headroll again, to mark the difference in the movement of the neck before and after working on the rest of the body.  I often will do a head cradle here, coming under the head and holding it in both hands, to give an extra sense of compassion, safety and relief to the client at the end of a session; I especially tend to do this if the session has been intense.

This is a good time for the Synergist to, well, synergize the session with the client: to give the client a sense of summation and what she most wants to take home with her from this particular session.  She may also ask how the client’s sense of her body / herself is different now than it was when she first lay down on the table.

Getting off the table and closing the session

Just as a Synergy session begins as soon as the client arrives, it does not end until the client leaves.  The Synergist should encourage and facilitate a slow and mindful transition off of the table.  Some clients will get up and jump off the table as quickly as they can no matter what you tell them.  But the ideal is to let the client roll to one side, observe the experience of being on their side, move to sitting and stay sitting for a minute or so, monitoring for light-headedness and also calibrating what it’s like to be vertical when they’ve been horizontal for forty minutes or so, and gradually move to standing, with a special emphasis on how the client’s feet are making contact with the ground now.  Keeping the client’s attention on the process through a brief walk around the office before scrambling to get out the door again is key to internalizing the messages and lessons of the session.

Once the client has a good sense of it, a simple closing should happen.  As with any other therapy or bodywork session, now is the time for gathering up items, arranging payment, and possibly scheduling a followup session.

Conclusion

I hope that this is useful to anyone who is wondering what an RSM session is like and whether it is for them; once again I cannot say exactly what your session will be like, but hopefully this writeup gives you a sense of what to expect at least from a mechanical perspective.

As far as the happenings of particular sessions, I hope to revisit this topic soon and provide some write-ups of sample sessions, to give a wider perspective on the kinds of things that can happen.

Until then, I’d be happy to work with you: please feel free to contact me if you’re interested.

Massage Therapy Boosts the Immune System of Cancer Patients
 – Guest Post

The lovely Melanie Bowen of the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance Blog contacted me not too long ago, wanting to guest post in this space about the power of healing touch to help cancer patients.  While this article is specifically about massage therapy, I have also known patients to get a lot of benefit out of Rubenfeld Synergy Method, which combines the healing touch of massage with exploration and deep dialogue with the body, which many cancer patients may see as having betrayed them.  Re-framing and further fostering the relationship with your body as an ally in times of great illness can speed healing, or, in the worst case, help a person come to terms with impending death.

The article Melanie sent was straightforward, supported by research, and said a lot of things I don’t have the scientific expertise to say.  Thus, I present her article here in full, and hope you enjoy learning more about the fantastic benefits touch can have for people suffering from cancer and other debilitating illnesses.

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Massage therapy can be a very effective and pleasant immune system booster for cancer patients. The fight against cancer of all kinds, including mesothelioma, leukemia, breast or colon cancer, can be daunting, overwhelming and exhausting.

Many of the traditional cancer treatments, such as chemotherapy, can leave a cancer patient feeling weak, nauseous and generally unwell. Many of the other cancer medications may also have difficult and unwanted side effects. Cancer patients also may feel a general sense of lassitude as they realize the enormity of their fight against cancer.

Massage therapy offers cancer patients many positive mental and physical effects. Massage therapy has been clinically shown to lower blood pressure, speed the recovery time from surgical procedures, increase circulation, decrease anxiety levels and reduce insomnia. With an increased sense of well-being, massage therapy even offers a cancer patient more energy and optimism with which to fight the disease. The increase in circulation is particularly important for a cancer patient because the enhanced movement of blood and lymphatic fluid helps the body to excise toxins, including cancer cells.

Massage therapy has also been shown to boost the immune system by balancing the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems. When we are in a state of heightened alert and crisis, our bodies key up to fight the perceived threat. For a cancer patient, this may be the disease itself or even a battle with the insurance company over needed procedures. Regardless of the specific situation, the body prepares for “battle” by releasing extra stress hormones, cortisol and adrenalin.

These stress hormones are very helpful in the short run. In the long run, these same hormones can lower the functioning of the immune system. Massage therapy helps to reduce anxiety, lower blood pressure and reduce circulating levels of stress hormones in the blood while creating a sense of well-being and peace. When the nervous system is in balance and a cancer patient is able to truly relax, even for an hour or two at a time, the body is better able to fight cancer cells.

Many cancers, including mesothelioma, may require initial surgical intervention. Massage therapy has been shown to reduce the recovery time from surgery, boost the release of endorphins, which are the body’s own natural painkillers, and reduce post-surgical scarring and edema.

Of course, if you suspect that you may have cancer or have been diagnosed with cancer, it is critical that you receive medical care from a competent oncologist. Many types of cancer have a more favorable outcome if the disease is caught in the earlier stages. Waiting too long to seek medical treatment may make a substantial difference in the outcome of the disease.

In addition to professional medical and surgical interventions, receiving regular sessions of massage therapy will help to promote a sense of well-being, boost your immune system, lower anxiety and help you to cope better with the pain and discomfort of many of the traditional cancer treatments. Just relaxing in the serene and comfortable environment of a spa or massage therapy treatment room will allow you to replenish your energy, vitality and optimism.

 

Principles of RSM #13: Humor can lighten and heal

Following on the last principle that pleasure needs to be supported in order to balance pain, this principle focuses directly on humor as an especially key type of pleasure.  Besides being a talented musician and a gifted healer, Ilana Rubenfeld has always been something of a cutup, and throughout her life has used humor as a key component in healing.  (Lightbulb jokes seem to be a particular favorite.)

Not all Synergists are comedians, of course, but one of the subtler parts of our training is in recognizing genuine moments where laughter can be made available to a client.  Something I hear people in pain say sometimes is “you have to laugh or you’ll cry.”  In RSM, I’d say the principle is more “you have to laugh so you can cry,” or “you have to laugh as well as cry.”  Laughter, after all, isn’t that far off from crying: I know there have been many times when I’ve heard laughter from another room and not known for a moment whether it was an expression of mirth or sorrow.  Often people talk of laughing until they cry, and certainly at times of difficulty, I’ve been able to be taken from tears to laughter very easily by a caring partner or friend.  And of course, there are tears of joy:

This is not a distraction or a way of avoiding difficult emotions: it’s yet another way to express and relieve them.  Emotions, after all, are a movement of energy through the body, and can be released in many ways.  Suppressing them ultimately numbs all experience of emotion, not just the ones you are trying to avoid.  Expressing them, we find that the line between great joy and great agony is fine indeed.

The important thing to clarify about humor in Rubenfeld Synergy is that we strive not to engage in sarcasm or bitter humor.  Anything that could seem like mockery, that could belittle the client or the client’s feelings, is not the type of humor we’re looking for.  Neither is participation in a client’s bitterness, which may come out as wry remarks or jokes at the client’s own expense.  What we’re looking for is the kind of humor that offers the client release, lifts the seriousness of a situation for a time, and helps open the door to other emotions that may be blocked.

I’ll never forget a session I had with a young woman who was in the midst of breaking up with her boyfriend.  She came into the session exhausted and blocked, feeling worn down and with very little energy.  As I made contact with her head, which felt very rigid, she said she felt a sense of darkness and safety, like a sheet pulled over her face.  Then suddenly, she let loose with a cry of “Bullshit!”  As she did so, her neck loosened amazingly, and I could suddenly roll it back and forth easily.  As I moved to various parts of her body, we found this feeling of anger everywhere – expressed sometimes as “Bullshit!” and sometimes as “Fuck it!”  This became funny pretty quickly.  “Yeah, bullshit!” I’d respond, as I felt some other part of her loosen and let go, and as she moved that frustration out she’d laugh.  “There’s another one – fuck it!”

Finding those points of frustration and anger in her body and giving them a voice was vitally important, and the fact that her body relaxed when she did it was my signal that it was what was needed.  But laughing at the swearing and the ferocity of the responses, not to mention with relief, helped make the expression safer for her.  She needed to know that I could handle her anger, which apparently wasn’t heard or expressed in her relationship.  And she needed to balance that anger with laughter.

In Ilana’s honor, here’s my favorite lightbulb joke:

Q: How many mice does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

A: Only two, but I’m not sure how they got in there.

Next: Reflecting clients’ verbal expressions validates their experience.

Just what does a Rubenfeld Synergy session look like, anyway? – Part 1

(Part 2 is here.)

The more I talk to people, and the more I write on this topic, the more I find that people tend to have trouble wrapping their minds around what Rubenfeld Synergy is, and what kind of experience they will have if they come and see me.  Offering six 25-minute sample sessions in a row last week really helped clarify for me what a “typical session” looks like, because of having to condense due to time and wanting to give the clients a good sense of the technique. So I thought I’d take a stab at describing a typical session, to the extent that such a thing exists.

You should understand from the get-go that every Rubenfeld Synergy session is going to be different by its very nature: the technique is very client-centered, and the Synergist is guided by what the client’s body and words tell them is needed.  But there are some things that a Synergist can fall back on that are semi-standardized, and there are many of what we call verbal interventions that Synergists will often employ.  So without further ado, here’s my best crack at describing a first session.  As I am attempting to do this in as much detail as possible, this will be a two-part post.  In this part, I will describe the beginning of the session, from arrival to the client lying down on the table.  In the second part, I will describe the tablework portion of a session.

The Welcome.  A Synergy session begins when the client walks in the door.  We are trained to be extremely receptive and observant, such that we can gather information even from the first moment of contact.  Noticing how the client looks when you open the door, or even how he or she parks the car.  I remember Joe Weldon, one of my greatest teachers, describing a client who always made sure to back her car into the driveway, even though doing so was trickier than simply pulling in.  He took it in as information, and later found a pattern in this client of always making sure she had a quick escape route.  He knew she was beginning to heal and learn to trust when she was able to pull forward into the driveway.  This is an extreme example, but it goes to show how much you can gather about a person in those first moments, before they even reach the door.

When Synergist and client first meet, then, the Synergist will already be in a place of noticing: how does this client hold her body?  How is she shaped, generally?  What stands out about the way she stands, walks, and sits?  What emotions seem present in her face?  This probably sounds like a lot of scrutiny, but in reality the Synergist should be welcoming the client, making her feel comfortable, and quietly taking in whatever he notices – not to judge, but simply as information.  At the same time, of course, introductions take place and the Synergist may offer water or use of the bathroom before beginning, invite the client to remove her shoes, and show her into the office.

Chair work.  The Synergist and client will generally sit across from each other in chairs to start with.  In this moment, the Synergist’s job is to welcome and orient the client.  She might ask whether the client had any trouble finding the office or arriving here: the current, present moment state of the client upon entering the session can have a tremendous effect on where the session goes, and a deeper story about the patterns in a client’s life may be reflected and contained in the immediate present of the client’s experience.  This is an important thing to remember generally about this work:  what the client initially presents with may in fact be the main issue he has come in to address, whether he knows it or not.  Is the client frazzled and rushed, perhaps a little late, having gotten lost or had difficulty getting there?  It’s possible that this is reflective of a disorganized life that causes the client constant frustration and difficulty.  Is the client nervous and apprehensive about the session?  It’s possible that anxiety pervades his experience of day-to-day life.  Maybe the client seems really friendly and easy-going: “Oh, I just wanted to check this out!” – but the Synergist can detect an underlying tension or falseness.  This client might be hiding his problems from himself, or might feel the need to keep up a sunny front in the face of painful experiences he has little support dealing with.

It’s important to note here that all of this is speculation at this point.  All the Synergist is doing is noticing: keeping, to the extent possible, a mental, emotional, and kinesthetic sense of this client and maybe beginning to make a few connections.  In all cases, the Synergist’s role is to help the client discover for himself what his issues are, what needs to shift, or what needs to be expanded and honored.

At this time, too, the Synergist may ask what brought the client to her – what issue is at the forefront, or what he hopes to work on.  Often, the Synergist will also ask what the client notices right now – what he’s experiencing in his body, what his breathing feels like, what’s in the forefront of his mind, what his heart is telling him.  As change occurs in the present moment, this is a means of helping the client to move into a present-tense state where healing can occur.

Moving to the table.  After a few minutes, the Synergist will generally invite the client to move to the table.  This may not happen right away if the client has particular issues around touch, or is not yet comfortable for any reason.  In this case, the Synergist and client may continue working in chairs for the entire session.  In some cases, the Synergist will touch the client while she sits in the chair; in others, the Synergist may guide the client to touch her own body and notice her experiences while they talk.

However, in most cases, the bulk of the session takes place on the table.  Rubenfeld Synergists use a standard massage table, set at about the height of the Synergist’s hips.  The client lies face-up on the table, fully clothed, and may have her eyes open or closed as she wishes.  The most convenient position is something like shivasana in yoga: legs straight out and relaxed, arms down at the sides.  For some people, though, adjustments are necessary: I, for example, often need to put my knees up for part of the session to take pressure off my lower back, or a bolster might be used under the knees for the same purpose.  Many people like to rest their hands on their belly, chest or hips rather than on the table, as their shoulders will not allow them to rest their hands comfortably at their sides.  The point is, the client should be allowed to find a position that is comfortable, and the Synergist can assist in this.

Once the client is lying comfortably enough (I say “enough” because often the client will have to put up with some discomfort, or will still be nervous, or in other ways be adjusting to the new experience of being on the table), the Synergist can begin the touch portion of the session.

Next: Part 2: Working on the table.

Apologies

Sorry, all, from being rather absent from the blogroll this week.  Various family crises, along with internet difficulties today, kept me from keeping this space current.

I will return next week with more about Rubenfeld Synergy sessions, the explication of the next Principle, and more!

The power of touch

Yesterday, I got to spend three hours seeing back-to-back Rubenfeld Synergy clients at the Weekend of Healing and Insight, a fundraising event for the Theosophical Society of Boston.  I saw six people, for 25 minutes each, with barely a break in-between.

This was more awesome than I imagined it would be.

Synergy sessions are generally 45 minutes to an hour in length, and in that time we may delve into life issues in considerable depth.  25 minutes is very short, especially when all the clients are first-timers who know little to nothing about RSM.  I was pleasantly surprised, though, by how much many of us were able to accomplish in so little time.  I believe I was able to give each of the six a real sense of the work, to show how it might deepen in a longer session or over several sessions, and most of them felt a real shift even during the short time we had together.

The real beauty of it, though, was the intense experience of touching so many different people in so short a time.  I heard stories of job discrimination, cancer, rape, and chronic illness.  I touched people who were overweight, thin and tense, athletic but cerebral, and filled with pain.  Young, old, male, female, from different parts of the world and varied spiritual beliefs.  And my heart opened, I dropped into my receptive stance, and their experiences flowed through me.

It’s hard sometimes to explain what is so intense and personal and beautiful to me about this work.  But when I do it in any kind of concentrated way, it always comes back to me, and makes me want to be doing it every day, and touching as many people as possible.  People need to know about this, and events like yesterday make me want to shout from the rooftops about how much this work is needed in the world.

One man told me that what had felt like anger and numbness had begun to move toward a sense of challenge and hope.  One woman felt her feet on the ground after feeling she’d spent years sitting on the fence.  One woman who was in so much pain I thought she was angry or suspicious when she first came in felt physical relief profound enough that it awed her.

It’s times like this I’m so glad I was called to do this work.  Now I just need for people to come and receive it.

Principles of RSM #12: Pleasure needs to be supported to balance pain

This week’s principle is probably one of the easiest to understand.   Oftentimes, whether in therapy, medicine, or bodywork, we have the tendency to focus on the negative.  The reasons are obvious: we’re at the doctor or the massage therapist or the psychologist to get relief from what’s troubling us.  Sure, we get checkups at the doctor, just to make sure everything’s okay.  But for the most part, when we’re seeking care, it’s because something is wrong.  We’re in pain, and we want to release it.

While in treatment, it’s likely that we’ll experience more pain before we receive relief.  That physical therapist will rub on our most tender places, push our muscles to go just past the point of pain, make us do exercises that will build up our strength but are anything from boring to excruciating.  The doctor may perform painful tests, give us drugs that have nasty side effects, or perform surgeries we need to recover from.  In psychotherapy, often we have to delve into our traumas, face core fears, process difficult emotions, and in some ways, get worse before we get better.

All of this requires some balancing, which too often isn’t as available to us in more traditional healing contexts.  My husband, for example, who has a mild form of MS, wasn’t told that the drug he’s taking might cause headaches, which he has been suffering from nightly for weeks now.  And even if information about how our treatment might cause us more pain is forthcoming, it’s seldom that we’re given recommendations for how to balance that pain with pleasure.

In Rubenfeld Synergy, there is a focus on finding and expanding the pleasurable experiences of the body.  This is not to say that we don’t move through the difficult things as well; in fact, most of the most powerful and effective sessions I’ve seen or been a part of have involved the client experiencing painful emotions or physical sensations or both.  But we put a special emphasis on calling upon the body’s resources to help make that pain bearable.

This principle applies in two major ways in sessions.  First, before entering into deep and potentially painful work, we like to be sure that the person has gotten in touch with enough of his or her resources to feel safe moving through difficult territory.  We work with clients to make sure they are in touch with their feet, that they trust their base of support to be strong beneath them, to know when to stand firm and when to run, and to carry them to the next place in their lives.  We help them feel their hips, and the power contained in them: the base of their spines, the capacity to turn toward or away from something.  We get them in touch with their hearts, and the messages their hearts have for them.  We introduce people to themselves, and tap them into the pleasure and beauty of being able to trust yourself.  It’s from this place that we can face the challenges and pain that come at us.

While working through painful pieces, pleasure can be called upon as well.  Sometimes laughter arises in response to difficult situations: this laughter should be supported and expanded, as it brings relief.  Sometimes a body part, say a hip, may feel painful, but the sensation of the Synergist’s hands supporting it may feel warm and comforting.  It is part of the Synergist’s job to focus the client’s attention on that warmth and comfort, to help them receive it and be able to call upon it as a resource.

Joan Brooks, one of my mentors, has been blogging at the Rubenfeld Synergy site lately, and she wrote a lovely piece about finding the seemingly paradoxical messages your body sometimes has for you and locating the common ground between them.  This is yet another way to balance pain with pleasure: it is not about throwing away the painful message and focusing only on the positive.  Instead it is a way of honoring the authentic experiences of your body, and by doing so, bringing yourself into greater alignment with who you are.

Teaching your body to pay attention to pleasure also helps to actually lessen pain, both by distracting from the pain and by encouraging the release of pain-relieving hormones in the brain.  And emotionally speaking, opening to pleasurable memories along with painful ones can open the channel for the release of difficult emotions, whereas when we hold back from experiencing pain, we repress positive emotions as well.  Numbing, as Miriam Greenspan said, is unfortunately not selective, and when we try not to experience pain, we keep ourselves from feeling joy as well.  Open to one, and you open to the other.  Yes, this means that you become more susceptible to pain.  But it also means that you learn how to move through it with greater speed, resilience, and grace.

And for a bonus, you get greater access to pleasure as well.

Next: Humor can lighten and heal.

Sample RSM and other healing modalities for $20 each – this weekend!

This weekend, the Boston Theosophical Society will be hosting their Weekend of Healing and Insight.  This is a weekend-long event in Arlington, MA, where Reiki folks, reflexologists, massage therapists, energy healers, and other hands-on types will be at hand, volunteering their time and giving 25-minute sessions.  Each session costs you $20, which goes to support the Society.

I will be there offering shortened Synergy sessions on Sunday, July 15 from 11 am to 2pm.  Please sign up and come have a session, or drop in!

The event is at 21 Maple Street, Arlington, MA, which is tucked away behind 19 Maple Street.  If you’d like to set up an appointment, contact Janet Kessenich at 617-926-4155 or janet@spiralenergies.com.

I hope to see some of you there!